Intro- I am here to create love.

• Taking time to dive deeper into how I am embodying my core and putting that into service in a way that lights me up.
• I am here to create love, that is my purpose.
• Everything I've gone through has been a learning in different forms of loving: myself, others, the world, Source/God/Creator/The Great Mystery
• How can I give love without condition, without needing anything in return--in every level?
  • Even outside of COVID, people are living with pain. How can I extend compassion?
• • Starts with waking up and not looking at my phone immediately. I need a break from screens, since I'm around them all the time. So I sleep with my phone in the bathroom.
  • Don't have to rush out of bed right now.
  • Taking the idea of presence, and adding love to that, in every interaction.
• I call myself a Love Artist
• • I am very open about sex, but this isn't just about sex. Love is not just about sex.
  • We need, more than ever, love and compassion in everything that we're doing.
  • We're seeing how sacred human connection is right now
  • I am called right now to embrace a new depth to the Art of Love

Vanessa Cuccia interview

• Owner and Creator of Chakrubs
• • Ethically sourced, crystal self-pleasure aids
• I (Chloé) bought my first one around my birthday. It's Rose Quartz. The first time I used it, I gave it a ritual oil bath. I gave myself a ritual oil bath. I played some heart frequency beats. Then I went into my room, inserted it, and let myself feel what it was like to use a toy that was connecting me to an actual energy frequency, as opposed to synthetic dildos. I was focusing on my breathing, and then I was taken to another place. I cried, then I orgasmed, then I cried some more.
• • I've done a lot of sexual healing work before, so I know how tremendously intense it can be. But I never knew I could have this kind of wonderfully shattering orgasm with a dildo.
• How did Chakrubs come to be?
  • The woman had a large collection of crystals in a room.
  • I had been in an emotionally and sexually abusive relationship for six years. I was used as his sex toy. My pleasure wasn't on the table. 
  • At this time, I was single, and working at an adult store. But none of the toys I had access to interested me.
  • Then, in the room with the crystals, the name Chakrubs popped in my head. 
  • I heard the crystals telling me "We are here to help." It was like they were conscious beings telling me, "We are able to help heal my sexual trauma, and also they wanted me to present them to the world, and present this as a solution to this problem, which was: we're disconnected."
  • Why was I so disconnected from myself that I was allowing myself to be in a situation where I had no boundaries?
  • That's why at the adult shop, I didn't connect from anything there. I wanted pleasure so badly, I was always a very sexually charged person, I wanted to feel pleasure. But that wasn't the end all-be all for me. I needed to connect to something much more significant: to myself.
  • The crystals were a conduit.
  • I said "these would be really great sex toys!" And these spiritual people just sort of dismissed me and kept doing their thing.
  • I was in LA pursuing music and acting, but this took precedence. It took a couple years, but that's how it started.
  • We mine in places that are abundant in crystals, and we follow ethical trade and manufacturing practices.
  • We try to give back in every way that we can, because we are extracting crystals from the earth. You can't get around that. It is making an impact, but we do everything we can to minimize.
  • At the beginning I sought out advice from a Shaman about the whole process, including costs. 
  • • We pay top dollar to take care of the people and environment we are working with.
    • I had to work through my own associations with money. I had to change my attitude towards it. I had $50 in pocket at any time in LA, working 3 jobs. So when I had the product and was ready to charge for it, I was freaked out. The Shaman helped me understand that money is energy. And all the energy that went into making the crystal and the product, and doing that ethically gets to have an energetic value in money. And, if taken care of, these will last a lifetime. The Shaman helped me work through all of that.
    • I try to bring the shadow side of business to light.
• • The details of Vanessa's story, her past, and what led to the moment of creation can be found here. 
  • I (Vanessa) was at a spiritual meeting of the minds. One of my friends was living with me, and asked me to tag along to this woman's house.
  • Chakrubs are not cheap. And that's a good thing. When I was thinking about buying one, I was choosing to invest in myself, but I had already spent so much money on sex toys that I used once or twice, and they were kinda--ehh--so I stopped using them. But one of the reasons I felt good about investing in my Chakrub is that they're ethically sourced. Can you talk about that?
• Coming out of this abusive relationship, to this incredibly powerful state with a healing, self-love product...how has that changed your sex life and your dating life?
  • That's always been a challenge for me. My relationships have been far from perfect. It's not like I switched after using Chakrubs. It's been a process. Every relationship has varied in emotional and sexual connection, but what Chakrubs taught me is that energy is the most important thing. 
• • My sex life is awesome!
  • I had not orgasmed or felt pleasure in my vagina, and I was extremely numb in my vagina that entire 6 year relationship.  
  • Chakrubs is the spiritual tool that will help you become more self-aware and bring about body positivity and acceptance. Apart from the metaphysical, it's also just really pleasurable.
  • Chakrubs brought the sensitivity back to my vagina, and I started having incredibly deep, powerful orgasms.
  • I was my own source of pleasure, and able to provide that to myself. And that was amazing, I felt great about it! 
  • I also found things that I needed to process: about the relationship, my childhood, and past lives. 
  • You don't actually need tools, they're fun, but that pleasure and love is already in you. My book "Crystal Healing and Sacred Pleasure" is all about that.
  • How do you hold that pleasure and self-love when you're with somebody else?   
  • I like the idea of evolution and understanding and getting to know someone. I give time for growth to happen in my relationships.  Because of Chakrubs I can be more patient with myself and the other person, communicate better what I want and need, and set boundaries. 
  • Caring about what I put into my body helped me care about who I put in my body.
  • I am currently in a relationship and having the best sex of my life, but it took an adjustment period. 
  • I don't need everything up front. With Chakrubs I'm learning the process of growth.
  • How to remain this person I've grown into, when I'm with a partner who is a mirror reflecting parts of me that I can't see when I'm alone?
  • Spirituality and sexuality are unending paths, which means there's always a place to go and evolve.
• I (Chloé) have been on a life-long journey of healing from Endometriosis, and have been symptom free for a few years. 
  • The way my physical therapist explained it to me, there are three myofascial layers of the vagina. I get to the first layer with my finger; the second layer with a crystal wand that's shaped like an "s" to get my g-spot, but I use it for myofascial release of spasms in the second layer; for the third, deeper, layer, I need a dilator. Each session I have with myself, I work with all 3 layers. 
    • It was helping. I was breathing, letting my pelvic floor relax. Where a lot of people are told to do kegels, I have to do reverse kegels, to release the tight muscles. 
  • • First and second layer were always fine, but the third layer was always uncomfortable with the tool I was using. 
  • It had been months since I did the work, because of the issues with the tools for the third layer. But I knew I needed to do them. That was part of the reason I bought a Chakrub.
  • • Now, I do my pelvic floor work daily, and then masturbate after.
  • For a lot of us with pelvic trauma, having something inside for that long can be painful. And what's been amazing about my Chakrub is there was an energetic understanding I had with my crystal. I said "Ok. I know this is uncomfortable, and it's because I haven't done this work for months, and that's just where we're at.  But I also know intuitively, it's not this object that is increasing the pain." It was a different understanding, a different relationship I had with it. And in less than a week, the pain was gone.
  • I no longer have to talk myself up to doing internal work. I look forward to it now.
• • One of the things I do as part of my healing is internal dilator work. I've been using different tools and my fingers to do that work. 
• What seeds do you want to plant with our audience to "Grow the Queendom?"
  • Listen to yourself, go within, because you are the Queen.
  • Queen's have crowns with points at the top that signify that Queens receive messages from The Beyond. A Queen is a Queen, because she is connected. She wears the crown. She is an open channel to receive, and people go to the Queen to be connected to what she is so well connected to. So just listen. You'll hear it.
• • Listen

Q&A : How do I create a sexual healing/self-love practice?

• Make it a ritual.
• Make it pleasurable.
• Sex is sacred, you are sacred, your body is sacred.
• If you have a bathtub, take a hot bath with some magnesium salt and essential oils. 
• If you don't have a bathtub, get real fuzzy and warm in your body and breathe.
• Put on sexy music or binaural beats for whatever chakra or energy center you want to work with in your body.
• • Ex: sacral or heart chakra
• Start breathing deeply. First part of this work is release. It's hard to feel pleasure with a lot of pain, constriction, and tension.
• Laying down, breathing, start with a lubricated index finger (recommend coconut oil for lube).
  • Allow the jaw to relax.
  • • Jaws and hips are structurally and energetically connected, so releasing your jaw allows your hips to release.
  • For a while, just breathe with it in. Know that you're connecting with a crystal--a living, energetic being with a frequency; and connecting with yourself.
  • Then, kick up the sacred pleasure: keep focusing on breath, but on your inhale, roll the top of your pelvis forward (ass moves back). On your exhale, the tailbone comes forward, releasing the arch. (Basically missionary position, rocking your pelvis back and forth with breath.)
  • You are Love. Therefore, you are Loved. And Love is a lot of things, but definitely pleasure. You are meant to experience pleasure. 
  • Say "This feels good. I feel good. I feel really good."
  • Maybe it morphs into "I feel Consciousness penetrating me open."
  • "I feel Lovelight breaking my heart opening with pleasure."
• • Think of vaginal opening as a clock. 12 o'clock is north towards your clitoris; 6 o'clock is south towards your anus. 
  • Between your top knuckle/bottom of your nail is the first layer of mayofascial tissue in the vagina.
  • Make the loop of the clock from 12 to 6 back up to 12.
  • Feel for places of tension or ropey/knotty areas. Breathe and stay there, just until you feel the sensation shift.
  • Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth.
  • Next go to the second layer: down to your knuckle. Or use a crystal wand to get to that layer (where G-Spot is), and use the same clock release technique.
  • Next insert your Chakrub, checking in with your breath.
• At different points, this work has brought me to tears. It's powerful, and beautiful.
• Write to me, let me know how it's going!
• Send in your questions: [email protected]; IG and FB- 
• Online video coaching with me through BEAM+Flow "Embodied Flow Sessions" (bodywork, feelings, hormone balancing, creative coaching)- [email protected] IG and FB: 
• or @chloecofresi

Moment of Flow

"Take Me" by Chloé Cofresí

 

When the sky turns dark

You light up my heart

Your smile, spread wide

My guides, they say 

"�Ay!

¡Si!"

Stake claim

Take anchor

Ground me, excite me, 

Move me, pin me

In me

Body buzzing

Blood rushing

Veins pulse

Wait, breathe

Exhala 

Slow down, enjoy

The touch, the tactile

Your joy lights me up 

It's palpable

Your voice enlivens me

Spirits move us

Spirit in us

Ogún to my Oshún

Fill me with your seed

Make me squirm 

Make me moan

Make me cum

Things happen 

Without control

And yet 

Completely of my making

So I call into existence 

This night of passion 

Come to me

Be the dream, manifest

The fantasy

Embodied