How polarized are we, really?  While the extremes in both ideological camps may be smaller in numbers than mainstream opinions their effect on our political dialogue and the conveyor belt of lies and distortions on social media amplify and accelerate those differences.  Thus, it feels like we are in a pitched battle for the soul of America.  The echo chambers distort so much of what is heard and seen that you feel like you’re in a fun house of sorts.  So how do we, everyday commonsense Americans, render the ‘stridents’ less powerful than they appear to us.  In her well thought out and researched book, “Remaking the Space Between Us: How Citizens Can Work Together to Build a Better Future For All”, Diana McLain Smith provides us, as she has business leaders for years, on a “Leading Through Relationships(LTR) approach which has been used around the world to convert debilitating intergroup conflict into a constructive force for change.