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EP 81 - MARRIAGE IS HARD, AND EASY
How long can one be perpetually contented anyway, or in a “perfect” anything? Like no darkness, only sunshine 24/7/365!
I love the Spring, but I wouldn’t give up all the other seasons and have it be Spring year-round.
We need change, even when it could mean extreme heat or cold. It’s nature.
How many couples do you know who have a “PERFECT” marriage 24/7 since day one? I don’t know a single one! Not even my marriage fits that description, even though it’s amazing!
Too often we fool ourselves (why?) into believing that just because we don’t “see” couples go through difficult times, that their marriage is “perfect," without trials… but that’s not the case, and it’s in fact impossible. And thinking that is to our marital detriment.
Although each one of us was created perfect (in the image of God) and was born perfect (for our purpose), life came along and shaped us into the person we are today.
Each one of us is unique and different, so it’s only natural that from time to time, no matter how much we love each other, we will have disagreements (snits, as my husband & I call them). Even heated arguments/fights, it doesn’t have to mean anything, because we’re humans.
Where we get it wrong:
Expecting our husbands to do what we want, how we want, when we want.
“Do the dishes like I do them, fold the laundry but do it like I do it, give the kids a bath but not like that, cook dinner but…” It’s like saying that the way I do things is the BEST & ONLY way to do things!
What to do instead:
Imagine allowing your husband to do things exactly the way he wants to do them (or knows how to do them), just the way you like to be left alone to do things the way you want to?
Unless ordering him around doesn’t upset him, of course by all means ask away… this can be very freeing once we try it… but it does take practice!
Try it a bit at a time and see for yourself. You can always revert to your way if it doesn’t work out for both of you.
I think in general we all want to be free to do as we please, and this applies to our husbands too!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook
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By Addie ScharffHow long can one be perpetually contented anyway, or in a “perfect” anything? Like no darkness, only sunshine 24/7/365!
I love the Spring, but I wouldn’t give up all the other seasons and have it be Spring year-round.
We need change, even when it could mean extreme heat or cold. It’s nature.
How many couples do you know who have a “PERFECT” marriage 24/7 since day one? I don’t know a single one! Not even my marriage fits that description, even though it’s amazing!
Too often we fool ourselves (why?) into believing that just because we don’t “see” couples go through difficult times, that their marriage is “perfect," without trials… but that’s not the case, and it’s in fact impossible. And thinking that is to our marital detriment.
Although each one of us was created perfect (in the image of God) and was born perfect (for our purpose), life came along and shaped us into the person we are today.
Each one of us is unique and different, so it’s only natural that from time to time, no matter how much we love each other, we will have disagreements (snits, as my husband & I call them). Even heated arguments/fights, it doesn’t have to mean anything, because we’re humans.
Where we get it wrong:
Expecting our husbands to do what we want, how we want, when we want.
“Do the dishes like I do them, fold the laundry but do it like I do it, give the kids a bath but not like that, cook dinner but…” It’s like saying that the way I do things is the BEST & ONLY way to do things!
What to do instead:
Imagine allowing your husband to do things exactly the way he wants to do them (or knows how to do them), just the way you like to be left alone to do things the way you want to?
Unless ordering him around doesn’t upset him, of course by all means ask away… this can be very freeing once we try it… but it does take practice!
Try it a bit at a time and see for yourself. You can always revert to your way if it doesn’t work out for both of you.
I think in general we all want to be free to do as we please, and this applies to our husbands too!
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
Women Rising Together | Facebook