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EP 90 - SELF-IMPOSED MISERY
It’s true that sometimes we are annoyed by what people do or say, how they
say it, but not only is it normal, it’s also optional.
We can be
annoyed, unhappy, even hurt, but for how long is up to us!
And it’s very important to remember that the ONLY reason we’re annoyed is
because of what we are thinking about it, what are making it mean!
No other
reason!
We also forget that too often we misinterpret each other… one person says and means
one thing, and we hear and making mean something completely different.
We must also take into account
ours, as well as others’ CAPACITY
to deal with life’s challenges.
Almost always
how someone acts or interprets things is based on our CAPACITY to cope with
life.
When someone is “too controlling” it’s not a reflection of those they
want to control, but only of their own capabilities.
Example: When
I try to “show” you how to do the dishes or make the bed, it’s only based on MY
own brain’s capacity… not of your
inadequacy!
But too often we take people’s
behavior as a sign
that it means something about us… it DOES NOT!!
How others do
life has to do with themselves not you.
When we live our life on our terms, and allow others (susan/alan)
to do the same, we all win! We’re all better for it… what peace that brings.
Please, do yourself and those you love
a favor… don’t DEMAND
of THEM to change how they live their lives in or that YOU may be happier… or
worse yet, UNHAPPY!
How many people do you know if your
life? 10, 100, 200?
Imagine if
you had to please everyone in order for them to be happy and if you didn’t they
would all recent you for it?
Allow, and receive, what others can freely give of
themselves to you… demand nothing, and appreciate what they do give… for it’s
all they can do.
No more being miserable because of
what others do or say. All you need to make yourself happy it’s
already within you right now.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive
relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic
Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and
200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect
on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
(link below)
Women Rising Together |
Facebook
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By Addie ScharffIt’s true that sometimes we are annoyed by what people do or say, how they
say it, but not only is it normal, it’s also optional.
We can be
annoyed, unhappy, even hurt, but for how long is up to us!
And it’s very important to remember that the ONLY reason we’re annoyed is
because of what we are thinking about it, what are making it mean!
No other
reason!
We also forget that too often we misinterpret each other… one person says and means
one thing, and we hear and making mean something completely different.
We must also take into account
ours, as well as others’ CAPACITY
to deal with life’s challenges.
Almost always
how someone acts or interprets things is based on our CAPACITY to cope with
life.
When someone is “too controlling” it’s not a reflection of those they
want to control, but only of their own capabilities.
Example: When
I try to “show” you how to do the dishes or make the bed, it’s only based on MY
own brain’s capacity… not of your
inadequacy!
But too often we take people’s
behavior as a sign
that it means something about us… it DOES NOT!!
How others do
life has to do with themselves not you.
When we live our life on our terms, and allow others (susan/alan)
to do the same, we all win! We’re all better for it… what peace that brings.
Please, do yourself and those you love
a favor… don’t DEMAND
of THEM to change how they live their lives in or that YOU may be happier… or
worse yet, UNHAPPY!
How many people do you know if your
life? 10, 100, 200?
Imagine if
you had to please everyone in order for them to be happy and if you didn’t they
would all recent you for it?
Allow, and receive, what others can freely give of
themselves to you… demand nothing, and appreciate what they do give… for it’s
all they can do.
No more being miserable because of
what others do or say. All you need to make yourself happy it’s
already within you right now.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive
relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic
Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and
200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
Learn more
Let’s connect
on social media!
INSTAGRAM: @women.rising.together
https://www.instagram.com/women.rising.together/
PRIVATE & FREE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: WomenRisingTogether2021
(link below)
Women Rising Together |
Facebook