Strangulation, often misnamed "choking" (that's when something's stuck in your throat, not when someone's pressing on it), is trending in the sex lives of college-age kids, and that's a problem. Apparently, the thought is that if it's consensual, it's safe. Tell that to your brain cells that really need blood and oxygen at all times. 

Dr. Debby Herbenick is a Provost Professor at the Indiana University School of Public Health and director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion who's been studying sexual health and changing sexual behavior trends for the past two decades. She's also the author of Yes, Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Today’s Teens and Sex and she has a lot to share on this topic.

We need to talk about why young people are consenting to this and why some of them aren't—but think they need to just go along with it because it's become so normalized. And we need to talk about the risks. There is no safe way to strangle someone. Strangulation is the number one lethality indicator when abuse is present, and it's a pretty thin line between doing it for funsies and doing it for power and control. 

You can read more in Amanda's story with Dr. Herbenick on DomesticShelters.org: "Being Choked During Sex Is Rising in Popularity Among Young People." And for more on talking to to your teen about sex, revisit Episode 13: Having the Sex Talk with Teens Featuring Shafia Zaloom. 

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As always, if you are experiencing abuse or domestic violence, please consider disclosing to someone you trust. You can also reach out to a trained domestic violence advocate—find one near you at DomesticShelters.org.

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