EP215: Sex After Trauma with Rachael Maddox

Since our first interview back in February 2016, today's guest has become one of my closest friends. What I love about Rachael Maddox is that her intelligence, rigor, and commitment to trauma resolution work runs as deep and wide as her passion, power, and capacity to hold space for it. She is one of the people I trust most in the world with the intimate details of my own healing, and a person who I learn from constantly. In this interview we talk about what it feels like to be on the other side of trauma in sex, and that YES, it is totally possible to heal from sexual trauma. We talk a lot about needs, connecting to your needs, asking for them, and honoring yourself and others around getting them met. We explored anger not being bad, safe love and intimate belonging, and what needs to be reclaimed to get to a place of healthy and safe sex after trauma. As always when trauma is involved in the conversation, please take care of yourself, pause the interview at any point if you need to and come back when you're ready. If it resonates for you, listen more than once, and if you need anything, you can contact us at [email protected] About Rachael Maddox: Rachael Maddox is a trauma resolution educator, coach and guide who’s helped hundreds of women and men resolve their sexual trauma and reclaim their pleasure, power and wholeness. In her first book, SECRET BAD GIRL, Rachael tells the story of her return to wildness, sensuality, health and embodied safety after a decade living under the trauma spell. Her next book, SEX AFTER TRAUMA, publishes fall 2018, and is written to help people navigate life between the sheets after they’ve been through the worst of it. On a fierce mission to help as many women as possible who’ve experienced trauma, Rachael offers one-on-one support, groups, articles and courses for women who are ready to dance hard with life. If you’re new to Rachael or the territory of trauma resolution, check out this free 8-part video series, Becoming a Grown Goddess, that covers Trauma 101, Boundaries & Belonging, Sex After Trauma, and more! Rachael’s professional training includes Alchemical Alignment Trauma Resolution & Embodiment of Spirit, The Coaches Training Institute and The Awakened Leadership Academy. In this episode, Rachael shares: 1. Social MVPs 2. Living your way into the answers 3. The relationship between longing, yearning, and desire