By using a set of questions I explore the power relations I grew up with and the ways in which I exert control over others now. Examining this has allowed me to understand healthier boundaries and relationships with others, as well as what I can and can’t control and what is and is not my responsibility. It has given me a greater understanding of the illusion of control, being accountable for my own actions and the ability to let go of expectations and perfectionism and the unrealistic expectations I have of myself.