Hey everyone- due to unforeseen circumstances, this week’s solo episode as intended, is cancelled. I always want to put out a quality episode and when it’s time for my solo episodes I want to make sure they are from the heart and are thought through. One of the things you’ll get to know about me is that I’d rather do something 100% than half ass it.  And this week I just didn’t have the mental and emotional bandwidth to get the job done. And I guess part of growing up and growing as a person is saying.. that’s OK. That if I’m honest with my friends, family and listeners it will be OK. And I don’t have to hold it all together for everyone and everything all the time ( PS.. thanks again @BREAK METHOD).

As I’m recording this, Kobe Bryant, his daughter and 7 other people died two days ago in a tragic accident. I bring that up not to shit stir, or emotionally mine for empathy, but because it made me take a step back and remind myself that today is not guaranteed and so if I need a fucking week off to take care of me and hug the people I love,  I’m gonna do it and not bury myself in Catholic guilt or feel lazy. So this week I just needed to fly my Dad in, hug my animals, and call it a wrap. And yes, I acknowledge the privilege I have to be able to do that so I JUST FUCKING DID IT.

But asking for help has always been my kryptonite ( notice Wonder Woman doesn’t even HAVE KRYPTONITE.. point to ponder but I digress). And I’ll share an excerpt of a speech I was supposed to give two years ago…so here goes:

“I'm here to tell you a bit about my story and the worst day of my life…

You see, in 2013, the violence with my then husband had escalated, to the point where, one night, I woke up to the sound of a gun being cocked and pointed at me, and all I could do was pray for my life. But even though at that point I was almost a partner at my firm, I had a law degree, a very supportive family, I was the breadwinner, and in case you haven't figured it out.. a  white, straight, US citizen, I was still terrified, and too scared to tell anyone.  

So I stayed….and didn't sleep, and lived every day in fear. 

 The worst day of my life was the day that I had lost hope, the day that I couldn't even think anymore, the day that I had to go to my father, at the age of 38, and tell him that I didn't know what to do, and that I needed his help. You see I was the person who fixed things for everyone: for my friends, my family and for my clients, but somehow I couldn't fix this. To me, at that point, I almost would have rather died then tell people what was going on. I was crippled by fear and shame. 

And so the day that I had to ask for help was the worst day of my life, not because I was worried that my father wouldn't help me, quite the opposite,  but because the shame was all encompassing, and I felt inside like it was all my fault.  ”

FAST FORWARD to 2020… life changes, we grow, and yet again I was in a position to need help. And this time.. I did it. And continue to do so. So if anyone out there is going through anything, I feel you. I see you and I get how hard it is to ask for help. But I’m gonna keep flexing my receptive muscle. And just fucking be brave enough to keep asking.

To that end, here’s what I need from all of you listening: I have a bunch of solo episode topics in my brain lined up and waiting to come out, and I‘m sure I’ll have more after the break, but this show is about YOU, not me. SO.. I NEED YOUR HELP.     I’m gonna list a few topics and I want to hear from you.. about which one you want me to cover on the next solo episode coming out March 2nd.  

I’m going to add voting buttons on our page at or you can just email us at boldlyspoken@mtolympusperformancegroup , mtolympusperformancegroup.com/podcast.com or reach me on insta @mtolympusgrp . But most importantly, I want to hear from you, so even if you have another suggestion feel free to drop me a line:

 

So without further a do here’s what’s kicking around in my brain:

1. “ Who Does She Think She Is?”: How To Be Bold & Brag ( and that’s a good thing)
2. Why NDA’s NEED TO GTFOH.   (NDAs are Non- Disclosure Agreements.. AKA the legal world’s silencer).
3. How Busy People Can Start Getting Involved In Their Local Community 
4. Every Superhero Has an Origin Story:  Understanding Your Backstory and Finding Your Superpower

So let me know what’s important to you, what you want to hear about, and anything else. This time it’s your turn to ask me for help. So drop me a line at boldlyspoken@mtolympusperformancegroup , mtolympusperformancegroup.com/podcast.com or reach me on insta @mtolympusgrp.

This week’s charity highlight is The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption- helping to find forever families for kids in foster care.  It’s near and dear to my heart because while I was not in foster care by the grace of God,  My Dad, My Super-Hero, My Super-Dad… adopted me at age 30 and has been the best and only true parent I have.   And he’s sitting right now in my living room and would be totally embarrassed hearing this. I LOVE YOU BIG GUY.  

https://www.davethomasfoundation.org/

 

Next week we’ll be back with Jennifer Spivak, Featured in Forbes and the Queen of Facebook Ads. And until next time.. be bold, be brave, be badasses but most importantly, BE YOU.