May 29, 2023

Ep.186 Mama Monday: Mom Lisa Candera on "Sanity Management" and Redirecting Our Brains Away from Worrying & Catastrophizing About Our Neurodivergent Kids

34 minutes

"Our brains will always find the junk aisle of thoughts."

About This Episode: It's Mama Monday! This week, I'm talking with mom Lisa. I loved this whole conversation and I know you will too! Here are just some of the topics we discussed:

-Growing up with a neurodivergent sibling
-What it's like in the early years with a "hit the ground running" mentality, trying various approaches, programs, and therapies through trial and error.
-How her fear and sadness were often suppressed by staying busy and constantly seeking solutions, avoiding fully confronting the emotions associated with her journey.
-Self-confidence erosion: How constant decision-making and challenges eroded her self-confidence as a parent, making it harder to make decisions.
-How society has ingrained the idea that self-care for moms is optional or selfish. Undoing these beliefs and prioritizing self-care requires unpacking years of conditioning and societal expectations.

Please shower Lisa with love and support by SHARING this episode with a mom who needs to hear her story. You can find Lisa at theautismmomcoach.com.

**Exciting news! I'm launching a newsletter! I love connecting with you guys – through email, in my Instagram DMs, and in my Mothers Together community, and of course here on the show. But recently I realized that I’d love to be able to provide you with a one-stop-shop where I can share ALL the things – from products we use in my home to accounts I follow to personal stories about my life as a mom of neurodivergent kids. My newsletter, called the “On The Hard Days” newsletter, is the best way to do that!

In addition to sharing pieces of my life and my favorites with you, this newsletter gives YOU the chance to share what’s on your heart! I’ll be accepting your original work – whether it’s a poem, a piece of art, a short story about a recent win you had, or even a video of your original music, to put into the newsletter! I’m also going to share your recommended self-care tips (you know, real self-care that’s practical for moms like us), links to my new merch, and more! I’m really excited about this, honestly.

The only thing I need from you in order to get the newsletter to you is your email address. To send that my way, you have a couple of options. Go to ontheharddays.com/newsletter to put your email address there or you can DM me on Instagram @ on the hard days, with dots in between each word, and say “newsletter” with your email address in the message.

The On The Hard Days newsletter launches soon, so get on my email list asap! As always, thank you so much for your endless support. I hope I can continue to provide you the same validation you guys give me!

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