In this Episode Rachael is joined by her husband Troy Aldanmaz and together they explore how to create relationships “beyond normal” using Access Consciousness tools, focusing on peace, gratitude, allowance, and co-creation rather than judgment, control, or separation.

💡 Key Insights and Lessons

1. Foundations of Their Relationship

• Built on ease, peace, honor, and gratitude.
• Rachel shifted from perfectionism and self-judgment to allowance and vulnerability.
• Troy learned not to expect separation after mistakes but instead to embrace conversations, humor, and “choice creates” (choosing every 10 seconds what kind of life and energy to create).

2. Practical Tools from Access Consciousness they use on their relationship

• Choice Creates: Every choice adds energy to your life; mistakes become opportunities.
• Five Elements of Intimacy:
  • Honour (respect without judgment)
  • Allowance (accepting differences)
  • Gratitude (ongoing appreciation)
  • Trust (believing in each other’s intent to make things greater)
  • Vulnerability (lowering barriers, receiving, not needing to control.

3. Co-Creation in Business & Life

• Their joint mission: expand consciousness globally.
• Business is not just work but “generating and creating.”
• Their relationship is sustained not just by each other but also by welcoming contributions from others and surrounding themselves with uplifting energies.
• They emphasize that no single partner should be the source of all energies in a relationship.

4. Handling Challenges

• Use humor and curiosity (“What’s funny about this that I’m not seeing?”).
• Space and independence are crucial—time apart strengthens the bond.
• Contribution from each other and from external energies makes life lighter, more joyful, and more creative.

5. Advice for Listeners

• Start with your relationship with yourself—clarity on what you value and desire.
• Don’t rely on a partner to fulfill all needs.
• Continuously ask: Does this relationship work for me today?
• Choose gratitude and presence daily instead of assuming permanence.

🌟 Essential Takeaways

• Relationships flourish through conscious choice, allowance, and gratitude, not through control, judgment, or perfection.
• Creating a sustainable relationship requires space, external contributions, and co-creation beyond the couple.
• The longest and most important relationship is the one you have with yourself—this sets the foundation for every other relationship.

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