Sean: Now, I want to talk a little bit about your book "IGI." How did you come about that idea? How did you come upon the idea of inviting God in and tackling your ego? What was the turning point or the aha moment for that? Can you tell us about that story?

Steve: Actually it was a mentor workshop and it had a scorecard for, it was called the four B's and I've since adjusted it and adapted it. And now call it the four B's, but it was having a daily scorecard. But the four B's that I use is that you have your body, your being, your bonds and your business. I needed to have a daily scorecard that was simply scoring myself on my body, my being, and my bonds, and my business.

So when I finally realized, okay, I've got to get that in check. Then, you know, I started being much more aware of it. And I realized that was my ego was clearly damaged and being overweight and being overcompensating a lot of ways. The being is your connection with whatever you call higher source; mother nature, universe, God Yahweh, Buddha, Mohammed.

So for me, this body, being, bonds, and business for all of us helps me track and measure it, my asshole factor, my ego factor. Am I showing up in the world? And if I'm not, am I going to let another day go by that I don't do something about it? Am I going to let another day go that I'm not treating my wife with respect?

Am I going to let another day go by that I eat unhealthy? Am I going to let it? And if the answer is, yes, well then I'm going to do another day. If not, what am I going to do about it? So this awareness of accountability led me to an understanding more about my ego and I continued to read and pray and meditate.

I still was climbing the ladder, but I could drink anybody under the table. And alcohol started becoming a very big presence in my life and it worked. I still worked every day. I still had success outside, but it was starting to chip away at my soul and it was starting to control my mind and my thinking.

And I was starting out to be reliant upon it. I started really diminishing my family and my wife almost left me and I had a daughter at the time who was about 13. Yeah. I must've been making promises for quite some time about not drinking or not drinking as much or whatever. Cause there was always those promises and I came home from work one night and my daughter had taken every alcohol bottle in the house.

Poured it in the sink put in a big Wicker basket on the middle of our kitchen counter. At the time, there was something called a yellow pages, which is like a phone book that you would open up because this was, you know, 18 years ago. And it had a big circle around alcoholics anonymous. And there was a note that just said, you need help.

And it was from my daughter and I was like, oh my God. I was like, I was just, I felt horrible for her. I felt embarrassed. I felt shame. The next I woke up and I literally had this epiphany of my life is going to deteriorate and go down the toilet really quickly. Cause I've lost control even though on the surface, I look like I'm carrying it all.

And I haven't had a drink in 18 years. And that helped me to start connecting higher to spirituality and to making the shift and the change that my ego was no longer serving me at a high level and that my ego needed to be put in check.

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