Unhinged: Separating Faith from Fiction

Ep26 | Did the Church Teach You to Distrust Yourself?

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You’ve been taught to not trust yourself… and what if that’s the very thing keeping you stuck?

In this episode of Unhinged: Separating Faith from Fiction we explore the subtle ways church culture can train people to distrust their own thoughts, feelings, instincts, and inner voice — and how that often gets mistaken for “spiritual maturity.”

We talk about accountability culture, fear-based spirituality, nervous system exhaustion, and the difference between transformation through love versus control.

Real spiritual growth is not about becoming less yourself… but becoming safe enough to finally be your authentic self.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in self-doubt, constantly second-guessed yourself, or felt afraid to think differently, question things, or trust your own discernment — this episode is for you.

-- WHAT YOU’LL LEARN --

If you’ve ever…

  • felt like your thoughts or feelings were “dangerous”
  • struggled to trust yourself or make decisions confidently
  • felt exhausted from constantly performing spirituality
  • feared “straying” or being wrong
  • hidden parts of yourself just to feel accepted

    • … then this will help you:

    • understand how self-distrust gets reinforced in church culture
    • recognize the difference between transformation through love vs. control
    • rebuild self-trust and discernment
    • understand why acceptance often transforms us more deeply than correction
    • create space for your nervous system to finally exhale
    • embrace a healthier, more honest spirituality

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      CHAPTERS

      00:00 Welcome to Unhinged: Separating Faith from Fiction!

      02:24 Spiritual Growth or Spiritual Control?

      04:04 Transformation by Being Accepted, Not by Being Corrected

      05:48 Love God. Love People. Love Yourself.

      08:12 Fear of “Straying” and His Reckless Love

      09:21 “Your Heart Is Deceitful” and Other Lies We Internalized

      10:59 The Restlessness When You Outgrow Old Beliefs

      14:48 Final Thoughts & Final Unhinged Moments!

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      Unhinged: Separating Faith from FictionBy Michele Kus, M.A. & Dr. Martin Trench