Have you ever said yes to something that felt like a full-body, no-doubt-about-it yes and then almost immediately, another opportunity showed up that you were equally excited about? That has been my world lately. And honestly, as much as I love having options, there is something quietly exhausting about standing at a crossroads when both paths genuinely appeal to you.

What I've been noticing is that the pull to do it all, to find some creative way to say yes to everything, doesn't always come from ambition. Sometimes it comes from not wanting to miss out, or from not wanting to let anyone down including yourself. But I've been learning, slowly and sometimes the hard way, that trying to be in two places at once often means you're not truly present in either one.

So on today's Wise Walk, I'm inviting you to slow down with me and get honest about what it actually feels like to choose one thing and let the other go with intention, without guilt, and without the weight of regret. Because there's real power in going all in on the one thing your heart is calling you toward.

• How are you getting grounded in order to make the best choice for you in this moment, in the you that exists right now?
• How are you going through the process of dropping into your heart or checking in with yourself enough to get clarity?
• How are you following up with yourself to release that other opportunity and not doubt it or have regrets?
• What does this experience look like for you right now, and are there opportunities to refine it so you get better and better at following your heart?
• When you're torn between two opportunities, what are the ways you are staying true to yourself and not getting caught up in FOMO?
• When can you say no because you're choosing your own sanity and choosing to be fully present for the one experience you're going all in on?
• Can you trust that if another opportunity needs to be part of your experience, something similar if not better will present itself at a later date?
• Is no for now okay, and can you just let it go?
• How often do savvy marketing strategies create fear or anxiety of missing out, and are you able to distance yourself enough to ask if you'd still say yes next month?
• What is the best use of your time and energy in this moment?
• How do you handle it when a dear loved one is the one creating that pressure to show up?
• Are you staying grounded in how you show up and not spreading yourself too thin?
• What does it feel like when you say no for now and choose your sanity, your peace, and your harmony?
• Are you giving yourself credit for being intentional about directing your energy toward what matters most to you?

Wherever you are and whatever's unfolding in your life right now, I hope you're showing up fully energized, present, and excited about what you're saying yes to. And for the things you're saying not right now to, I hope you're holding those with anticipation rather than regret.

It goes a long way. I'd love to hear what you took away from today's episode, so feel free to reach out, and I'll see you next Thursday for another Wise Walk.

In this episode:

• [02:58] I'm super excited because my friend's 50th birthday party is coming up this weekend. It's important for me to show up for her.
• [04:02] Then I was invited to attend a workshop on the same weekend. This Workshop is something that I would be excited to learn, and it's also a rare opportunity. I had to reflect on if I could do both things.
• [05:07] Would I be able to enjoy the party if I had to fly at the crack of dawn to do both? I felt anxiety rising in me when I thought about this question.
• [06:03] The thought of doing both made me feel exhausted. I ended up saying no to the workshop.
• [07:09] When I try to do too much in too short of a period, I don't show up as my best self.
• [11:00] It's funny because in my life, I feel like when I need to learn a lesson, this happens more often than not.
• [12:22] When I have opportunities competing with my time, I'm getting better at saying I can't do both and not putting pressure on myself.
• [13:47] I'm choosing not to get swept up in the energy of fear of missing out.
• [15:20] I also want to take this moment to thank you. All of the Wise Walks that we go on creates a safe place for me to reflect. You have helped me to go inward and be intentional.

Memorable Quotes:

• • "I don't have to buy into that fear of missing out. I don't have to let that influence my decision because my decisions affect me." - Mary Tess
  • "Anytime I try to do too much in too short of a period, I am not showing up as my best self." - Mary Tess
  • "I want to enjoy life. I really want to show up in meaningful ways for myself and for those that I love." - Mary Tess
  • "I'm getting better at making choices that say — I can't do both, I don't want to do both, I don't want to put that pressure on myself." - Mary Tess

Links and Resources:

• Mary Tess Rooney
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• Heart Value

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