In relationship you will discover the way patterns of the past some how leak into what we hoped to be a book full of blank pages – when in fact we are two individuals coming into relationship with our own book full of stories. We unconsciously begin to mesh these stories together. Can you imagine how two very different stories attempting to mesh into one wouldn’t make much sense? That’s because patterns of the past do not belong in our relationships. I am not naive enough to tell you your patterns won’t pop up though… They will. Your job is to sift through those patterns and rise.

 

How magical is it to be given the opportunity to create a new story in tandem with someone – to grow – and change – to evolve individually and hopefully together.

 

Within this video we touch on patterns a bit more – but most importantly the dynamics built within a relationship.

 

We adopt roles within relationships (not just romantic) -more often than not the foundation of your relationship is the birthing of the dynamics that will play out throughout the connection you share. This is certainly true within mine. Who I was entering into my relationship – and even into my marriage is not who I am as I exit this beautiful connection that was once shared. I say beautiful because I would not be who I am today if it was not for all that was learned and taught.

 

Entering my relationship – I wanted to be healed, I was a victim to life and circumstance I had not yet learned that the rescue I was looking for would come from me. My partner became the “rescuer” – the provider of “tough love”. I needed that tough love coming from a home of the – victim archetype. It is no wonder I had begun living from that space. Had I not received the tough love my partner offered me I would not have recovered.

 

However, his offering of tough love was a pattern developed in childhood and came from the book of his past. He had been a rescuer long before he met me. This dynamic was easy to integrate into with me. This love was not a healthy love despite the benefits received.

 

As I recovered – and found my soul again the love I “wanted” began to change. This is not uncommon as an individual moves from “unhealed” – to “healed” – LOL – I laugh… because friends we are “never” “healed” – we are always in a place of evolution and growth – but I hope it helps you understand what I mean. I began to crave a greater connection, a different kind of support. I would reach for it over and over, but the dynamics of our relationship had been laid out.

 

Can the dynamic within relationships change? Absolutely – but it will take work and both partners need to be willing.

 

In this video I leave you with tips on how to know if the love you are looking for has changed. These are signs you can feel into and address before you find yourself slipping out of your relationship.

 

I hope you find this helpful.

 

Who is SabriNa Lise: A registered holistic nutritionist, health and wellness coach - and a mental health advocate passionate about helping clients navigate the ups and dowNs of their jourNey towards better health and change their well-being for good.

 

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Please note that everything shared on this channel is based on personal experience and should not be taken as professional advice and is separate from my practice as a wellness coach and Holistic Nutritionist. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized guidance.