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Ep6. Rere和贝拉的《纽约时报婚前15问》


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Hello,大家最近还好吗?转眼已经到秋天了,好久没有来跟大家聊天了(抱歉)。今天想跟大家聊聊纽约时报在2006年发布的婚前15问,虽然是10多年前的文章了,但问题放到现在看也还是很relevant,直击婚姻的基础面。希望大家喜欢这期真诚的分享聊天,如果喜欢请给我们点赞或留言告诉我们。我们也把这15个问题放在了下面,欢迎大家留言跟我们分享你们的想法和观点哟。


1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

我们要不要孩子?如果要,主要由谁负责?  


2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

我们的赚钱能力及目标是什么?消费观及储蓄观会不会发生冲突?  


3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

我们的家庭如何维持?由谁来掌握可能出现的风险?  


4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

我们有没有详尽地交换过双方的疾病史?包括精神上的。


5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

我们父母的态度有没有达到我们的预期?会不会给足够的祝福?


6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

我们有没有自然、坦诚地说出自己的性需求、性的偏好及恐惧?


7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

卧室能放电视机吗?


8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

我们真的能倾听对方诉说,并公平对待对方的想法和抱怨吗?


9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

我们清晰地了解对方的精神需求及信仰吗?我们讨论过孩子将来的信仰问题吗?


10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

我们喜欢并尊重对方的朋友吗?


11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

我们能不能看重并尊敬对方的父母?我们有没考虑到父母可能会干涉我们的关系?


12) What does my family do that annoys you?

我的家族最让你心烦的事情是什么?


13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

我们永远不会因为婚姻放弃的东西是什么?


14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

如果我们中的一人需要离开其家族所在地陪同另一人到外地工作,做得到吗?


15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

我们是不是充满信心面对任何挑战使婚姻一直往前走?



From: Rere & Bella


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