Couples therapy can be life-changing. But it is not appropriate for every couple. In this episode, I talk openly about the situations where I will not proceed with couples therapy — and why responsible therapists sometimes say no. Because therapy is not about saving every relationship at all costs. It’s about safety, readiness, and real growth. In This Episode, I Cover: Why couples therapy is not a courtroom The foundational conditions required for therapy to work When therapy can unintentionally cause harm The ethical responsibility of screening couples properly 🚩 Situations Where Couples Therapy Is NOT Appropriate: Active abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, financial coercion) Severe power imbalances that make emotional safety impossible When one partner is only attending to “win” or prove they’re right When one person has already emotionally exited the relationship Severe untreated addiction or mental health conditions Using therapy as a moral checkbox before separating In these cases, individual therapy, safety planning, stabilisation, or discernment work may be more appropriate first. What Couples Therapy IS For Couples therapy works when: Both partners genuinely want repair Both are willing to self-reflect Both are prepared to change behaviours There is emotional and physical safety When those conditions are present, couples therapy can rebuild trust, improve communication, and restore connection. Reflection Questions Are we both truly invested in repair? Is there safety in our relationship? Are we ready to examine our own contribution? Are we seeking growth — or validation? Couples therapy is not about preserving relationships at all costs. It is about clarity, safety, and emotional integrity. If you’re unsure whether couples therapy is right for you, start with honesty. 🌿 Work With Me If you’re ready for structured, research-informed relationship support, explore my Couple Wellness Coaching Program at sharanyav.com. Or book a clarity call to assess readiness before beginning.