Emotional Safety First: The Foundation of Every Neurodiverse Relationship

In this heartfelt Therapy Insights Tuesdays of Love on the Autism Spectrum, therapist and neurodivergent coach Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, invites you to pause the usual relationship advice and return to what matters most: emotional safety.

Too often, couples are urged to “communicate better” without understanding that no tool works when the nervous system feels unsafe. Blaze shares the story of Maya and Eli—two partners who weren’t disconnected due to a lack of love, but because their bodies were in survival mode.

This episode offers a trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming reframe:

• Why safety must come before communication
• How shutdowns, freezes, and emotional blankness are protective responses—not rejections
• What emotional safety actually looks like for autistic and ADHD nervous systems
• How to identify and share your own safety signals in relationship

You’ll also receive a gentle Home Play invitation to reflect on what helps you feel safe, so you can begin creating more connection without pressure.

You’re not too much. You’re not broken. Needing space or quiet isn’t a flaw—it’s information.

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**This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health care. Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, is a licensed therapist in California, but this content does not constitute a therapeutic relationship. For personalized support, consult a qualified professional. If you're in crisis, call 988 or seek local emergency services.**