Hey Friend

Episode 019: Lies we believe about friendships as adults

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Odds are you’re believing lies about friendship as an adult, and that those lies are hurting your ability to make, keep, and go deep with your friends.

Making friends as an adult isn’t easy, and it’s made harder by the fact that we often buy into these four lies:

  • Friendships magically appear: the truth is we need to be intentional about making friends, putting in effort to initiate and build relationships.
  • Effortless friendships are best: The truth is that strong friendships involve mutual investment, where both people contribute.
  • Conflict ruins friendships: the truth is that healthy disagreements can actually strengthen friendships if we navigate them constructively.
  • Friendships last forever: in reality, most friendships are temporary, serving a purpose in a specific life stage.

    • Don’t fall for these limiting beliefs. Instead, embrace God's perspective on friendship through prayer, studying the Bible, connecting with a faith community, and taking the initiative to build new friendships.

    Links to the articles we mentioned:

    • https://time.com/5159867/adult-friendships-loneliness/
    • https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/01/how-to-make-new-friends-midlife/621231/&ved=2ahUKEwi6uvKMz9aGAxVt3ckDHW58CoUQFnoECBMQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1ZCILhGA-J2Ind-pV_HPf3
    • https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2019/11/why-dont-i-see-you-anymore/598336/
    • https://www.self.com/story/men-friendship-advice
    • https://www.businessinsider.com/death-casual-fringe-friendships-gen-z-sad-jobs-alone-2024-2
    • https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jul/18/loneliness-coping-with-the-gap-where-friends-used-to-be
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