Showing Up When You Don’t Want To: Purpose and Tiny Steps Forward

In episode five of The Unvarnished Edit, Angie and Jaelene talk about showing up for life even when you don’t want to. They explore how responsibility, motherhood, and healing require effort, especially learning to show up for yourself after years of caretaking and unsafe self-advocacy. They discuss how changing long-standing patterns is difficult, especially when dysregulated, and share practical supports like recurring phone reminders and small, actionable steps. The conversation connects purpose to motivation at work and home, addresses working without purpose due to necessity, and emphasizes decompressing after work. They also discuss parenting by allowing children to face consequences, influenced by Codependent No More, and conclude with avoiding shame, investigating the “why,” and acknowledging feelings to move forward.

00:00 Welcome to Episode Five

00:23 Honeymoon Recap Europe

00:57 Crying on the Flight

02:51 Using Media to Cry

03:41 Theme Showing Up

06:02 Hardest Part Self

09:11 Phone Alarms Reminders

11:25 Why Calendars Fail

14:38 Small Steps Self Care

17:01 Purpose Makes It Easier

19:40 Work Without Purpose

20:35 Privilege and Survival Jobs

22:02 Doing Hard Things

22:28 After Work Recovery

23:25 Finding Balance Elsewhere

24:35 This Too Shall Pass

26:41 Parenting With Self Care

28:33 Let Them Face Consequences

32:30 Codependency Wake Up Call

33:29 Learning To Show Up

34:39 No Is A Sentence

36:55 Feelings Like Toddlers

38:11 Key Takeaways And Goodbye