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Episode 053: Evidence-Based Discipline That’s Been PROVEN to Work
One of the most common questions parents ask is "What discipline approach will actually be effective for my strong willed child?" Luckily, there have been decades of research on that topic and there is answer. Today, Jeff Tesch LMFT teaches us what discipline has been PROVEN to work with our kids!
LISTEN ABOVE OR READ THE SUMMARY BELOW
Jeff Tesch, LMFT
I regularly have parents in my office asking me “How do I get my child to stop using X behavior?” I like to teach them the formula I’m about to teach you. This formula was developed through decades of research. In fact, there was even one study that monitored kids for 40 years, starting at age 8 to see what kind of parenting the child received and continuing on to age 48 to see what effect the parenting had on the child. The kids that were parented by parents using the formula I am going to teach you behaved better in their younger years and performed better throughout the next FOUR DECADES OF LIFE! They had higher education, better jobs, healthier relationships, and the list goes on. Meaning, that the formula I’m going to teach you could LITERALLY CHANGE YOUR CHILD’S LIFE!
Here are some other benefits of the formula I’m going to teach you:
It requires less effort and less frustration for YOU the parent while providing incredibly improved outcomes.
It’s been proven to work with all kinds of kids: Kids with regular cognitive functioning as well as kids with ODD, OCD, ADHD, and even kids with lower functioning such as autism. In fact, if you have a child with a diagnosis, it's absolutely critical that you follow this formula! When a child has a diagnosis it can be harder for them to behave well and they need you to really guide them. This formula is designed to do just that.
This formula is so well researched that you can have complete confidence in it and won’t need to read another parenting book again.
You get to be a unique parent. We give you the formula then you get to personalize how you use the formula to match you and your child.
If you know this formula, you will be able to know if parenting ideas you here will be worth trying or not. If the ideas you hear don’t fit into this formula, you’ll know not to use them. If they do, you’ll know that they will work because this formula has been proven over and over and over again. It’s the formula all the future therapists are taught to use.
I’m excited to get started! So be looking in your inbox for the next video or click on Video One below.
The 40 year study
I mentioned a 40 year study completed to see what kind of parenting helped kids behave well when they were young and helped them become happy, healthy adults. Research found that the parents who got the best results were parents who:
Had high expectations of how their child should behave and what skills they should develop. These parents knew what behaviors would not serve their child well as an adult and were really clear with their children that those types of behaviors would not be allowed and gave a fair consequence when children choose to use those behaviors. We call this the FIRM side of parenting
The parents with the best results were also really warm, loving, and connected to their child. They made sure that the overall tone of each day was positive. They pointed out what things their child was doing well, they spent time with their kids, they hugged them, attended their activities, and were their biggest cheerleaders in life. We call this the SOFT side of parenting.
To give your kids the best chance of behaving well now and doing REALLY well in the future, it is important for you to become REALLY good at being both a FIRM parent and a SOFT parent.
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One of the most common questions parents ask is "What discipline approach will actually be effective for my strong willed child?" Luckily, there have been decades of research on that topic and there is answer. Today, Jeff Tesch LMFT teaches us what discipline has been PROVEN to work with our kids!
LISTEN ABOVE OR READ THE SUMMARY BELOW
Jeff Tesch, LMFT
I regularly have parents in my office asking me “How do I get my child to stop using X behavior?” I like to teach them the formula I’m about to teach you. This formula was developed through decades of research. In fact, there was even one study that monitored kids for 40 years, starting at age 8 to see what kind of parenting the child received and continuing on to age 48 to see what effect the parenting had on the child. The kids that were parented by parents using the formula I am going to teach you behaved better in their younger years and performed better throughout the next FOUR DECADES OF LIFE! They had higher education, better jobs, healthier relationships, and the list goes on. Meaning, that the formula I’m going to teach you could LITERALLY CHANGE YOUR CHILD’S LIFE!
Here are some other benefits of the formula I’m going to teach you:
It requires less effort and less frustration for YOU the parent while providing incredibly improved outcomes.
It’s been proven to work with all kinds of kids: Kids with regular cognitive functioning as well as kids with ODD, OCD, ADHD, and even kids with lower functioning such as autism. In fact, if you have a child with a diagnosis, it's absolutely critical that you follow this formula! When a child has a diagnosis it can be harder for them to behave well and they need you to really guide them. This formula is designed to do just that.
This formula is so well researched that you can have complete confidence in it and won’t need to read another parenting book again.
You get to be a unique parent. We give you the formula then you get to personalize how you use the formula to match you and your child.
If you know this formula, you will be able to know if parenting ideas you here will be worth trying or not. If the ideas you hear don’t fit into this formula, you’ll know not to use them. If they do, you’ll know that they will work because this formula has been proven over and over and over again. It’s the formula all the future therapists are taught to use.
I’m excited to get started! So be looking in your inbox for the next video or click on Video One below.
The 40 year study
I mentioned a 40 year study completed to see what kind of parenting helped kids behave well when they were young and helped them become happy, healthy adults. Research found that the parents who got the best results were parents who:
Had high expectations of how their child should behave and what skills they should develop. These parents knew what behaviors would not serve their child well as an adult and were really clear with their children that those types of behaviors would not be allowed and gave a fair consequence when children choose to use those behaviors. We call this the FIRM side of parenting
The parents with the best results were also really warm, loving, and connected to their child. They made sure that the overall tone of each day was positive. They pointed out what things their child was doing well, they spent time with their kids, they hugged them, attended their activities, and were their biggest cheerleaders in life. We call this the SOFT side of parenting.
To give your kids the best chance of behaving well now and doing REALLY well in the future, it is important for you to become REALLY good at being both a FIRM parent and a SOFT parent.