The idea that you are responsible for your life is hard medicine to swallow. There are two types of people in this world - proactive and reactive - those who take responsibility for their lives and those blame; those who make it happen and those who get happened to. Being proactive is the first step toward achieving the private victory. You can't do Habits 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and 7 before doing Habit 1.