You're taught that good people accept everyone. That doesn't work! Otherwise we'd all be a bunch of Burning Man-going, Kumbaya singing bisexuals. I share my experience dating a wonderful man whose drinking seemed excessive. In the past I would have tried to save him, change him and -- ultimately -- not accept him for how he was (buzzed). By truly accepting him for who he is I was able to also accept who I am, what I need and the boundries I need to draw. We broke up, and I was able to be at peace with that.

In this episode I also help these callers:

Maureen is stressed out leaving her young daughter with a nanny. I help her accept that she is really just feeling guilty for being a working mom. Time to let that go, Maureen! 

Phyllis doesn't smoke or drink, but got that special feeling when meeting a man who drinks -- and in fact was drunk on thier single encounter! Phyills! That's not going to work! But it is useful to accept that those feelings are a fanatastic tool for resurrecting feelings that may have been sleeping -- and harness them for motivation to find a sober dude.