When you find out that a person who you thought held you in a favorable light has said something unkind about you behind your back, it is hard not to feel blindsided. Unfortunately, Marcy recently had an experience like this and we spend today’s show speaking about how to deal with these kinds of situations. Marcy found out that an old employee from 20 years ago had said something mean about her to an acquaintance. The worst part is that this ex-employee had often sent Marcy kind messages, and they even had brunch together three months ago! After breaking this news to the rest of the Amigas, our hosts weigh in on their thoughts about what Marcy should take away from what happened. One of the main points we make is that when people say bad things about us, it is more of a reflection on them than us! If a person’s behavior is toxic, it is okay to cut them out of your life. This leads us to the end of the conversation where we consider the nuances of how to deal with different kinds of toxic relationships. A particularly difficult case is when a child is dating somebody toxic, so tune in today to hear our perspectives on the matter!

Key Points From This Episode:

• An experience Marcy had of an old employee talking badly about her.
• How the Amigas feel about people expressing negative opinions about them.
• The strangeness of Marcy’s acquaintance’s behavior, seeing as this person often sent her nice messages.
• Remembering to not be affected by other people’s negative views, especially if they are based on old versions of oneself.
• Deconstructing why a person’s negative opinions might be triggering for you.
• Showing up as your better self and rising up above people’s behavior.
• People’s expressions of negative views of you are a reflection of them, not you.
• Learning how to cut those with energy you find toxic out of your life.
• How to deal with situations where kids are in relationships with toxic people.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: 

Chatting With My Amigas website

Chatting With My Amigas on Instagram