Every parent, coach, and kid in sport has felt it — that heavy silence on the drive home after a game. No one’s angry, but no one feels right either. It’s the quiet weight of expectations — the invisible kind we carry into every match, comp, or tournament.

Kelly opens up about a moment that humbled her at her son’s soccer tournament. From arriving two hours early, to watching him play flat and disconnected, to realising her own frustration wasn’t about him at all — it was about the story she’d built in her head.

This episode dives deep into why good parents sometimes push too hard, why good coaches can cross the line without meaning to, and how kids learn to measure themselves through our moods.

Across all sports — soccer, footy, swimming, dance, tennis — the message is the same: expectations aren’t the enemy; silence is.

If you’ve ever sat in that car, heart full and heavy, wondering if you said too much or not enough — this one’s for you.