Not surprisingly, a one size fits all approach to discipline management is usually ineffective.  Of course, building strong and productive relationships and communities are key.  Beyond that, we have to remind ourselves that our students are individuals with different experiences, personalities, and perspectives.  Standardizing discipline to fit in a box will inevitably fall short of serving you or the student.  As kids and humans, they will make mistakes.  They aren't robots.  Do them a favor and don't act like one either.