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The question of solitude haunts our hyper-connected age. Are we meant to be alone, or always in community? Today's exploration reveals a profound truth: while complete isolation is unhealthy—"It is not good for man to be alone"—intentional solitude serves as a gateway to our deepest selves.

Many retreat from being alone with their thoughts, filling every moment with noise and distraction. This fear often signals a disconnection from gratitude and spiritual awareness. When we're terrified by our own thoughts, we've lost touch with something essential. Yet those who cultivate regular solitude discover something remarkable—a profound sense of wonder and appreciation for life's gifts.

Consider the metaphor shared by Rav Shlomo Wolbe: "If not for the night, we would not know the stars." During daylight, we focus exclusively on earthly matters, but darkness reveals celestial wonders that were always present yet unseen. Similarly, withdrawing from social interaction allows the "heavenly aspects of the soul" to emerge—revealing emotions and yearnings previously undiscovered within ourselves.

This balance between connection and contemplation defines true wellbeing. While we need relationships—especially those we actively choose and cultivate—we equally need moments of hitbodedut, speaking directly to our Creator without scripts or formalities. These conversations reveal our neshama, our soul's essence and purpose. Without them, we remain strangers to ourselves.

When was the last time you truly disconnected to reconnect? Take time this week to step away from distraction and have an honest conversation with yourself and your Creator. You might be surprised by the stars you find shining within.

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