There are numerous definitions of boundaries. 

One of them is that boundaries serve as expectation management. At its core, it’s quite simple: boundaries create an expectation for what I can expect from you and, conversely, what you can expect from me. 

Healthy boundaries create healthy expectations and are truly essential for any kind of relationship—but people with high functioning anxiety really struggle with setting them for a number of reasons. 

They think that people won’t like them.

There might be conflict. 

It might mean they hurt someone’s feelings.

Ouch. 

But when setting boundaries, any of the above can happen—but it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t follow through. In fact, boundaries are one way we can be both clear and kind with others. 

If that feels counterintuitive to you, I recommend giving this episode a listen. Today, I’m discussing the importance of boundaries with Randi Buckley. 

Randi is a leadership mentor, author, and podcaster who offers a different way of thinking for something more. She is also the creator of the group- and self-led programs, Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, The Deep, and Maybe Baby. and works with wildly intelligent individuals and organizations, and is a curator of context, nuance, and discernment. 

Listen to the full episode to hear:

• Why using mind reading to keep the peace often leads to bigger blow-ups
• What it means to carry the emotional weight for other people, how we naturally do it, and, more importantly, how to stop
• How the break down of setting boundaries is more than just saying no
• The difference between people-pleasing and kindness (and why one undermines boundaries while the other does not)

Learn more about Randi:

• randibuckley.com
• Sideways Truth Podcast
• Instagram: @randi.buckley

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Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
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