The Stories Men Tell, my Conversation with Dr. Robin Hadley

Shakespeare's 'Ages of Man' :

All the world’s a stage,

And all the men and women merely players;

They have their exits and their entrances,

And one man in his time plays many parts,

His acts being seven ages. At first the infant,

Mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms;

 

And then the whining schoolboy, with his satchel

And shining morning face, creeping like snail

Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,

Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad

Made to his mistress’ eyebrow. 

Then a soldier, Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,

Jealous in honor, sudden and quick in quarrel,

Seeking the bubble reputation

Even in the cannon’s mouth. And then the justice,

In fair round belly with good capon lined,

With eyes severe and beard of formal cut,

Full of wise saws and modern instances;

And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts

Into the lean and slippered pantaloon,

With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;

His youthful hose, well saved, a world too wide

For his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice,

Turning again toward childish treble, pipes

And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,

That ends this strange eventful history,

Is second childishness and mere oblivion,

Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything. 

https://www.thefreshreads.com/the-seven-ages-of-man-summary-and-analysis/

Hello, and welcome to episode 143 of the Childless not by Choice Podcast. My name is Civilla Morgan. My mission is to recognize and speak to childless not by choice women and men around the world, reminding you, us, that we can live joyful, relevant, fulfilled, childless not by choice, lives.  

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What is today’s show about?

The stories men tell!

 

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Body of episode:

• I went back to search for our first ever interview and it was 2017! Time flies doesn’t it? (link in the show notes).  In that story, you told a story about an interaction at a sports field. I’ve thought about that story because it just tugged at my heart. Can you tell us more stories of men dealing with childlessness in the real world? (five stories?)

 

• Discuss the book–It’s more educational, four chapters on men’s stories, background to aging, childlessness, a reference book with the human stories, including Robin’s, why don’t men talk.

 

• Tell us a little bit about AWOC–Aging Without Children, of which you are a member. ‘If you’re not counted you don’t count.’--Horace Sheffield.  

 

Articles/links of interest:

 

All The World’s a Stage, William Shakespeare, read by Morgan Freeman

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5hcaYEcAp0

 

 

https://childlessnotbychoice.net/episode-72-male-and-childless-not-by-choice-my-interview-with-dr-robin-hadley/

 

Cynthia Daniels—Exposing Men–The Science and Politics of Male Reproduction 

 

Blogs:

'Coping with Father's Day as a childless man': http://bit.ly/2HRekoC

'Negative perceptions of older childless men': http://bit.ly/2LnGZnQ

'The un-held hand': http://bit.ly/2n2sn2H

‘Non-fatherhood on ‘Fathers Day’: http://bit.ly/2MvBpQm

'The case of the invisible older childless men': bit.ly/1SFNsrJ

 

 

 

News media:

Daily Telegraph: 'Men 'just as broody as women': http://bit.ly/179NLSD

 

'HOW IS A MAN SUPPOSED TO BE A MAN? Male Childlessness – 

a Life Course Disrupted': https://bit.ly/3aa3TfO

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Latest work:

Hadley, R. A. (2020). "Male broodiness...": https://bit.ly/36pOvLz

Hadley, RA. 'Men and Me(n)' researching men: https://bit.ly/3c3EKTJ

Marston, Musselwhite & Hadley. COVID-19 vs Social Isolation: https://bit.ly/2xYSUGC

Academic papers

2019: 'Anxious childhood attachment predicts childlessness in later life’: http://bit.ly/2RcGXEM

2019: ‘Social networks of older childless men: http://bit.ly/2LHvJWr

2019: The impact of male involuntary childlessness: http://bit.ly/2INE9rX

2018: The lived experience of older involuntarily childless men: http://bit.ly/2CXeJGQ

2018:The lived experience of older involuntarily childless men: http://bit.ly/2KgP5gt

2011: Involuntarily childless men & the desire for fatherhood:http://bit.ly/2iMN4RB

Book chapters

2019: Deconstructing Dad. Palgrave Handbook of Male Psychology: http://bit.ly/2VHuJTU

2018: Ageing without Children, gender and social justice: http://bit.ly/2twhV6s

2018: I Only Wanted to be a Dad': https://amzn.to/2z7q9I6

 

Special thank you to:

Dr. Robin Hadley 

Dr. Hadley’s Contact/Social Media: 

Website: https://www.robinhadley.co.uk/

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Twitter: @robinhadley1

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Amazon page: https://www.amazon.com/author/robinhadleybook

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Attached are the reviews of the book that have come out so far. The article titled 'Book review 2022 HRM' is one I wrote on behalf of an academic who wanted to help promote the book but didn't have time to read it!

 

Episode quotes: 

‘Why are you on the church school board if you don’t have kids?’

‘The church is my family.’

‘If you’re not counted, you don’t count.--Horace Sheffield.

‘Men, including fathers, have a fear of being seen as pedophiles when they are single and or childless.’

‘Society doesn’t want to know its men are not virile.’

 

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