Episode Summary
If weight gain has quietly become the loudest thing in your head, this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, Melissa breaks down why weight gain during midlife, perimenopause, and active healing is not a failure — but often a sign that your body is trying to protect you.

You’ll learn why obsessing over weight keeps your body stuck, how diet culture trains women to tie worth to size, and what actually needs to happen before sustainable fat loss can occur.

This episode reframes weight gain through a physiological and nervous-system lens, helping you step out of shame and back into partnership with your body.

In This Episode, We Cover

• Why weight gain is incredibly common during perimenopause and healing phases
  
  
  
• How weight gain often reflects your body creating safety and stored energy
  
  
  
• The real reason restriction and “starting over” backfire during midlife
  
  
  
• How hormonal imbalance, gut dysfunction, and chronic stress affect fat storage
  
  
  
• Why weight gain becomes an identity — and how that keeps healing stuck
  
  
  
• What “mean girl” self-talk does to your nervous system and metabolism
  
  
  
• Why the scale often blocks healing instead of supporting it
  
  
  
• When it actually is appropriate to focus on weight loss
  
  
  
• Why your body’s ideal weight may differ from what your mind expects
  
  
  
• How letting go of forcing your body creates true capacity, clarity, and energy
  
  
  

Key Takeaways

• Weight gain is often part of the healing process, not proof something is wrong
  
  
  
• Your body prioritizes safety and energy before fat loss
  
  
  
• Overworking, under-fueling, and chronic stress create an energy deficit that drives weight gain
  
  
  
• Healing happens when the nervous system feels safe, not when the body is forced
  
  
  
• Your weight is not your identity — and it was never meant to be
  
  
  

Who This Episode Is For

• High-achieving women in midlife who feel stuck, frustrated, or confused by their bodies
  
  
  
• Women doing “everything right” but still gaining weight or feeling depleted
  
  
  
• Anyone in perimenopause or a healing phase who feels betrayed by her body
  
  
  
• Women ready to stop fighting their body and start understanding it
  
  
  

Mentioned in This Episode

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