Sometimes we focus on others before ourselves on the things we ourselves need help on. Look to see what it is that you're doing for others first before yourself and see if you put yourself first and helped YOURSELF how would your life be? To me, It was putting up laundry. I could put up laundry for everyone but when it came to me... I recognized that I had to work on my stuff first.  Kind of like love yourself first before you can allow someone else to love you kinda thing... Hmmm