In this powerful 30-minute interview, Emma speaks with Suzanne Alderson - author, speaker, and founder of the award-winning charity Parenting Mental Health. With raw honesty and a wealth of hard-earned wisdom, Suzanne shares her personal journey through trauma, crisis, and healing, and how it led her to build a lifeline for tens of thousands of parents navigating the complexities of adolescent mental health.

Suzanne’s story began with an experience no parent expects: her 14-year-old daughter, Izzy, attempted to take her own life after facing relentless bullying. In the midst of her own shock, grief, and confusion, Suzanne found herself utterly alone in the waiting rooms of mental health services, surrounded by silent, downcast parents—each isolated by shame and fear. What she needed didn't exist: a space for parents to come together, to be seen, supported, and empowered. So she created one.

What began as a Facebook group has since grown into a charity supporting over 50,000 parents navigating the mental health challenges of their children. But Suzanne’s mission goes beyond support—it’s about transformation. She believes adversity, while painful and often overwhelming, can also be a portal to growth, connection, and deep personal change.

In our conversation, Suzanne speaks candidly about her own history of abuse, homelessness, and the deep isolation she felt before realizing she wasn’t alone. She reflects on how those experiences shaped her instinct to help others, and how the crisis with her daughter compelled her to confront her own past and start anew—not just for Izzy, but for herself. She speaks powerfully about the transformative potential of adversity, the importance of self-responsibility, and the need for compassionate, safe spaces where parents can find community and strength.

We discuss the myths around parenting and perfection, the quiet shame many parents carry, and the critical importance of self-compassion and personal responsibility. Suzanne introduces the concept of “partnering, not parenting”—a philosophy rooted in presence, respect, and emotional safety rather than control or fixing. It’s a powerful reframe for anyone raising children, especially in the context of mental health struggles.

Suzanne also speaks to the cost of caregiving—the toll of vicarious trauma, and the need to be honest about how we support those doing good work. She emphasizes that transformation starts within, and that healing requires a commitment to showing up authentically, day by day. “If I haven’t done the work myself,” she says, “then I’m still in the same place, no matter how many people I help.”

This interview is filled with insight, heart, and hope. It’s not just for parents, but for anyone who has faced hardship, who’s searching for meaning in their struggle, or who wants to better understand how community and compassion can be lifelines in times of darkness. Suzanne reminds us that while we cannot always shield our children from hardship, we can walk beside them—and in doing so, we often find our own path to healing.

To learn more about Suzanne’s work, visit suzannealderson.com, parentingmentalhealth.org, or join the supportive community on Facebook. Her book, Never Let Go, How to Parent Your Child Through Mental Illness is available at all major retailers.

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