Personal intro

• Having to move back from Puerto Rico has reminded me that no matter where I am, WHO I am, is a Queen.
• Who is a queen?
• • They believe they are queens, they show up for themselves as Queens.
• In tarot, my personality card is the Empress, the Queen of Queens
• • I choose every day to be the Empress, whether or not I feel it
  • My feelings don't define me. I define me. 
  • • Queens can feel everything, because they know that the feelings will pass, and who they are is consistently a Queen.

 

Carmindy Interview

• Safeguarding your energy is key to living in your Queendom. 
• Allow yourself to take a day, without making excuses to justify your choice.
• Carmindy grew up in Southern California and was bullied relentlessly for being overweight and for her looks.
• She found her escape through art and nature
• In the beginning she was covering herself in makeup, in an attempt to change herself. And then as her self-esteem grew through art, she started seeing the power of highlighting the natural beauty in herself and others
• Grew up reading "A Course in Miracles," her mother studied astrology and so Carmindy did too. She was a spiritual seeker early on
• •  Read "Creative Visualization"; read "7 Spiritual Laws of Success"
• She combined the two, to make sure every woman would feel empowered, and her  spiritual background helped her relate to every woman
• Love is theme of her work, not proselytizing
• "What changes the game is a woman who's 42, with 3 kids, newly divorced, just survived breast cancer..if i can make her feel beautiful, that's changing the game."  
• The more advanced and powerful we're becoming as women, the more insecure we're becoming about our physical appearance.
• • That insecurity multiples in women's heads in their relationships
• Mirror mantras!
• • What passes through your lips is powerful
• How has your growth and self-confidence shifted your romantic relationships?
• • Carmindy always knew she didn't want to have children, so the ticking clock was never a factor
  • "If I made decisions based on the heart over the ticking clock, I'd be a lot happier"
  • Long history of bad relationships, even though she had fantastic role models in her parents and brother
  • She would choose "projects" in the form of manboys
  • A lot of women either give their power to a man who controls them, or give their power away by trying to fix them
  • Her new relationship is about living in the moment, which is a direct result of her self-confidence. 
  • The question to ask is, "Are we happy, today?"
• Do certain parts of self-confidence only come with age?
• • Yes it comes with age, but you can also learn by listening to more confident elders
  • There is no time limit!
• Being driven by ambition or trying to control everything makes you miss out on the moment of beauty that is right now.
• Don't give a shit! Stop caring about what anyone else thinks! What do you think?
• How do you live in your Queenliness, when you're in a season that is a dark night of the soul?
• • Abusive relationships
  • • Many queens get into abusive relationships almost to challenge ourselves to see how powerful we really are...and then we get out.
  • Reach out to other Goddesses and Queens
  • • Queens need their court! They don't do it alone.
  • Go through the fire
  • Creative visualization. Keep visualizing, don't doubt it.
  • Pivot, reshape, play with clay, but don't give up.
  • If you don't fail, you won't grow
• In the Ancient Egyptians' burial ceremony, to get to the afterlife, you had to fight the demons to go to where the gods live. 
• • That's  what happens in our life on earth.
• Going through her dark night of the soul has brought Carmindy to the happiest, strongest, most empowered place in her life.
• "Why?" is not always the best question. Things aren't happening to you, they're happening for you. 
• • "What?" is a better question. What are you going to do with the situation?
• Once you're through the fire, don't look back.
• • Ex: After her divorce, Carmindy's view is that alimony isn't alimony anymore, it's a student loan from "love college."
• You can look at one thing and see it three,four, five different ways. Why not choose the positive, funny way? It's better, it's lighter, it's happier.
• From this moment forward two things could happen in the world:
• • fear= new world order, masculine
  • Positive collective consciousness=new order, feminine 
• What seeds do you want to plant with our audience to "Grow the Queendom?"
• • Create your own destiny. 
  • "Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, live the life you have imagined." Henry David Thorough

 

Q&A

• Gladys "how are you going to decide for yourself how you're going to be beneficial in this time?"
• Here's why I love this question: Just by asking the question, you're putting other people first.
• When you shift your focus to other people, and how you can serve them, everything else shifts.
• When you focus on yourself, without remembering that you're part of a bigger whole, you fall deeper into isolation and depression.
• Two pillars for getting through quarantine
• • Get the focus off yourself, how are you going to be of service?
  • What's a healthy way to focus on yourself? Orgasm at least once a day.
• Send in your questions: [email protected]; IG and FB- @queendom.come.podcast
• Online video coaching with me through BEAM+Flow "Embodied Flow Sessions" (bodywork, feelings, hormone balancing, creative coaching). IG and FB- BEAM+Flow

 

Moment of Flow

• "Something New" by Cleo Wade