In today's episode we explore a very structural tool that will probably serve as a base to some future tools. This tool is supposed to help you balance several areas of your life in a very visual way.

Tool: Pillars of your life

Instructions:

1 - Get a piece of paper or a new computer document

2 - List what areas of your life are important to you and are your pillars. Again, things like Work, Health, Relationship, Friends, Family, etc. Don't worry if you miss one, the idea is that you will revise this list from time to time, and it's your list so you can change it at any time.

3 - Now you're going to think of each one of your pillars and write what actions you have been taking towards improving each one. Have you been in contact with your friends or family? Have you been doing well at work? Have you been doing actions that will contribute to your relationship like doing those small surprises or taking her/him out to dinner, or anything. It's not just about how you perceive that area is going. It's also about how much effort and actions you've been performing to make it better.

4 - Based on what you listed give a score of 1 to 10 for each one. Try to be the most honest with yourself you can. You won't be showing this list to anyone, so just make the effort to be transparent, even if it hurts.

5 - Now draw the several pillars in the paper and each one should be as thick as the number you assigned to it.

6 - Evaluate. Look at your pillars. Where are the weak parts of your structure? Which pillars need more work?

7 - Create a small list of simple actions you can assign to the pillars that have the smallest score. This can be treating your partner with a surprise massage, or arranging for a dinner party with your friends, visiting your aunt, or even reconnecting with someone you lost contact with because of some fight you had. These should be actionable and not complex at this stage.

8 - Schedule those actions. Decide a date for each one. Make it so it's comfortable for you.

9 - Execute those actions!