In this episode, I’m joined by three incredible guests working on the frontlines of gender-based violence support: Czarina Garcia (Manager of Programs and Outreach at Ingamo Homes), Natasha McMillan (Outreach Worker at DASO), and Brooke McCoy (Child and Youth Worker at Ingamo Homes).

Together, we live-react to a Reddit post that starts out like a lot of relationships do—loving, supportive, even “perfect.” But as the story unfolds, we hear about a boyfriend who screams, smashes things, threatens to leave during fights, controls the space at home, and rarely apologizes—yet expects sex just days later.

So… is this abuse?

We unpack the signs, talk about why situations like this can feel confusing, and help break down what emotional and psychological abuse can actually look like. It’s honest, grounded, and full of insight from the people who do this work every day.

Tune in to hear what our guests think—and maybe start seeing things a little differently.

Resources & Support:

Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)

Website: www.daso.ca

Crisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938

Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)

Website: www.ingamohomes.com

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