Join Holli and Jeanna as they cover:

• To Seattle H&J went for Jeanna’s 25% capacity pandemic birthday celebration
• They ate more than they drank – this is a first
• Music in chauffeur daughter’s car was fire – driving, hmmm…..
• Weirdness is still in the air with COVID. It’s disarming – are people scared or do they think its just fake news – hard to figure out where people are at and what are the rules
• Holli explains her floating bone
• Let’s stop making people uncomfortable
• Mask is sticking around for awhile
• Mental health and happiness is a priority
• Being hunkered down with the family requires healthy boundaries
• Being uncomfortable may be a sign that you don’t have good boundaries
• For example, you don’t want to be hugged and someone hugs you, you feel discomfort
• Leaky boundaries will add to your stress
• Self care is healthy boundaries, not too loose and not too strict
• Let’s rebrand self care – taking suggestions
• Physical and emotional boundaries
• Boundaries are a respect for self
• What’s a boundary and what’s a choice?
• Verbalizing your boundaries is important so that people know
• Rigid boundaries are unhealthy and therapy would be helpful to ease stress
• Too loose boundaries is also unhealthy, they are not articulated and then the person internalizes the discomfort. Everyone has boundaries even if not articulated
• You can be good at boundaries at work but too loose with loved ones
• How you communicate the boundaries is extremely important. Make sure it is not directed at them but about you.
• Look at the intent behind when someone breaks your boundaries and sometimes give them grace for positive intent
• During COVID – maybe your employer calls you at al hours, maybe your kids interrupt your meetings – all of this you determine is disrespectful and needs a boundary
• Set those boundaries now!
• What makes me feel worse during the day and why? Is it from others? Can you clearly articulate the issue?
• The decompression time of the commute or the work-out has vanished during COVID – it’s a great time to set a boundary

Plus! 7 examples of boundaries H&J style:

1. Communicating thoughts, feelings, and needs
2. Telling others how you want to be treated
3. Deciding which problems are yours and which problems belongs to others
4. Not “saving the day” and letting others be accountable for the natural consequences of their choices
5. Having personal space and privacy
6. Not providing an explanation for your “no”
7. Saying no to the things you don’t have the time, energy or resources for….and no to the things you don’t want to do

Uplevel Uncorked Assignment: Explore your personal boundaries and how they can be improved. What makes you uncomfortable – start the exploration there! Where do your boundaries look like Swiss cheese?