Sometimes we wish our friends and family knew certain things about adoption... like, what not to say to people who are adopting! Well-meaning people often unknowingly use words in ways that aren't the most constructive. When it comes to questions, statements and assumptions, we have heard some interesting ones!

We've got some real life examples, as well as some suggestions for how people can rephrase common questions and statements to make everyone feel better.

And remember, when in doubt, laugh it off! At the very least it makes a good story.