In this episode, we’re joined by Tim Kelly, past Manager of the Family Violence and Counselling Program with the Children’s Aid Society, and a long-time leader in supporting families impacted by abuse.

Tim helps unpack a crucial reality: abuse in relationships is never just a partner problem—it directly affects parenting, children’s wellbeing, and the overall safety of the home.

We discuss how abusive behaviours can show up in fatherhood, the lasting impact on children, and why meaningful accountability is essential for change.

Links from our Conversation:

Childhood Trauma and ACES https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24875-adverse-childhood-experiences-ace

ACES Score Test (pdf)

https://www.acesaware.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/ACE-Questionnaire-for-Adults-Identified-English-rev.7.26.22.pdf

Caring Dads/Family Violence Counselling Program

https://www.casoxford.on.ca/family-violence-counselling/#:~:text=The%20Caring%20Dads%20Program%20is,to%20abuse%20of%20their%20mother.

Resources + Support:

Domestic Abuse Services Oxford (Emergency shelter & 24/7 crisis line)

Website: www.daso.ca

Crisis Line Toll-Free Number: 1-800-265-1938

Ingamo Homes (Second stage housing & support)

Website: www.ingamohomes.com

Children's Aid Society Oxford

Website: https://www.casoxford.on.ca/

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