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Episode 24: How to Build Real Confidence (Without Faking It)

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. In this episode of Psychology for Students, we’re breaking down what real self-confidence looks like and how you can grow it, even if you struggle with anxiety or self-doubt.

You’ll learn:

• Why confidence matters more than talent
• The difference between self-confidence and self-esteem
• A step-by-step Confidence Plan you can start using today
• 10 science-backed strategies to boost belief in yourself
• Real-life examples—from campus life to class participation

Whether you’re trying to raise your hand in class, speak up more, or just feel more secure in who you are, this episode gives you practical tools to help you get there—without pretending to be someone you’re not.

Your Confidence Plan

Step 1: Build Your Confidence Plan

• Choose one area to grow your confidence (e.g., speaking in class).
• Write why it matters to you.
• Pick one small action to take this week.
• Share your plan with someone supportive.
• Review weekly: what worked, what’s next?

Step 2: Practice One Skill

• Focus on one area (e.g., public speaking).
• Take daily, small steps (ask a question in class, take a walk, sit in front).
• Limit distractions.
• Track your progress weekly.

Step 3: Reframe Negative Self-Talk

• Catch it – notice critical thoughts.
• Check it – would you say this to a friend?
• Change it – reframe to something helpful.

Step 4: Visualize Success

• Spend 60 seconds imagining yourself doing well.
• Picture calm entry, clear speaking, feeling proud.

Step 5: Use Affirmations

• Say 1–2 affirmations aloud daily.
• Post where you’ll see them.

Examples:

• "I can do hard things."
• "I’m growing through effort."

Step 6: Care for Your Body

• Sleep 7+ hours
• Eat protein, drink water
• Move your body daily
• Rest without guilt

Step 7: Take Small Brave Actions

• Try micro-courage: ask a question, join a club, message a prof.
• List 3 to try this week.

Step 8: Choose Positive People

• Spend more time with those who support and energize you.

Step 9: Reflect Weekly

• What made you proud?
• What did you learn?
• What’s one next step?

Step 10: Ask for Help

• Talk to a counselor, mentor, or friend.
• Asking is strength—not weakness.

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