On this episode of Major’s Mess Hall, Gavin sits down with Rob Patey for a deeply personal and honest conversation about grief, loss, and learning how to carry on after life changes forever.

Rob has built a powerful daily “Grief Journal” on TikTok, where he shares his experience of adjusting to life after the loss of his wife in January. In this episode, he opens up about that journey, the realities of grief, and the small ways he’s finding a path forward.

Gavin also shares his own story, speaking candidly about the loss of his mum in early May, what happened, and how he’s been coping in the weeks since. It’s a raw, heartfelt conversation between two people navigating loss in real time, with honesty, vulnerability, and a reminder that grief looks different for everyone.

If you’d like to follow Rob’s journey, you can find him on TikTok at @Roberttpateyiii.