What does it mean to be unapologetically you? To stand in the boldest expression of yourself and say “hey, I’m not going to hide. Here’s my story with complex childhood trauma”.
You are going to feel some big feelings today. That’s ok, my guest today is ALL about sitting with, accepting and moving with big feelings. You can come back to it if you need to, but sometimes there is magic to be found in what we are avoiding. There is nowhere to hide with Lotus Fire.
She is creative, glowy, playful and, to use a phrase many Australians grew up with, she has more front than Myers. It means to be bold, cheeky and unapologetically self-confident.
Survivors of complex childhood trauma are often amazing chameleons. Adaptive shape shifters. Lotus and I talk about the idea of who are you – as in who are you now instead of who did you have to become to survive your childhood?
Sometime around 17 Lotus began working through experiences of childhood incest. And she has done a lot of work. We talk about what it’s like when you and what you’re carrying feels like “too much” for other people to support. Trauma work is really difficult and there are unfortunately quite a few people saying they do trauma work who can’t manage caring without carrying. In that they actually don’t know how to help.
We talk ab out Lotus’s Pregnancy with her son, and experiencing the suicide of her father when she was 7 months pregnant. How fine she seemed, how everyone else though she was fine. Remember that bit about the chameleon?
Finding joy in trauma work
Dancing, talking to rocks, playing tag, making jokes
You are more powerful than you know. If birthworkers and the people they serve remember that they are powerful, then we will change the world.
Video of this podcast :https://youtu.be/btnBtlHvWKA
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