You are more than happy or sad, you are more than the life of the party or the party pooper, you are more than a democrat or republican, you are more than just a mother or a father, you are more than all of those things. We are beautiful and messy all at the same time, because that is the creativity of our God. He is not a two party system or a two emotion God, he gave us a lot more to work with. Allow yourself to not be boxed in and live in an either or mentality.