Have you ever felt this way about a relationship you were in:  it feels out of control?  It feels one-sided?  It sucks you dry emotionally?  It doesn't meet your expectations?   Do those thoughts apply to your teaching job as well?  They did mine, for a long time, until I began to take control and stop feeling like a victim in my own career.  But how do we reframe this job in a way that feels healthy?