Codependency is the need to make someone else happy with the expectation they will make you happy. It is driven by the need to feel loved.

CoIndependent means living a life full of love and joy in yourself that you can both share with others and receive. Accepting that we are not only lovable but that the essense of what we are is love helps us realize we don't need to seek love from outside ourselves but its already there.

When we learn to connect with that love in ourselves and in God (or your higher power) we no longer have a need to seek it outside ourselves. Love yourself well and you will feel lovable. By not trying to get love but just loving yourself well, you will experience more love from the world and others than ever which feels great but is just icing on the cake because you no longer need it.

In this episode I attemp to help explain how to love ourselves better, why to love ourselves better and 10 suggestions on how to get from a self-hater to a self lover.

As always, thank you for joining me. If you have questions or comments, feel free to email me at [email protected].

Also, check out my youtube channel (The Curious Counselor).

May your day be filled with compassionate thoughts, kind words and actions, and curiosity in all things today and every day.

Alan Pennington

The Curious Counselor