In this episode, I’m talking about the real work of relationships.

The beautiful parts, the messy middle, and the growth that’s required when two people choose each other long term.

Shane and I recently celebrated 13 years of marriage, and it had me reflecting, not just on us, but on what LOVE actually is and what it isn’t and the courage it takes to be in the work together.

It’s not perfection.

It’s not avoiding conflict.

And it’s not one person doing all the emotional heavy lifting. (This is so frikin common)

For a long time, many women have quietly carried that weight, wondering if they’re too sensitive, too demanding, or somehow the problem.

And I just don’t believe that anymore.

Healthy relationships require brave women AND brave men.

Men who are willing to reflect, communicate, take ownership of their parts in the relationship and grow.

Women who feel safe enough to ask for what they need without shrinking themselves.

Connection isn’t built by one person trying harder.

It’s built when two adults show up in their bodies, with their egos in the back seat of the relationship.

 If you’ve ever felt like you’re working overtime to hold everything together and the resentment and disconnection keeps building then this is for you.

 If you’re ready to create something deeper, safer and more honest I would love to work with you inside Tender or through Relationship Coaching.