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Love Letters to the Self, the City and the Night (with GHOSTGIRL)

This Valentine’s-week episode is a love letter — not to romance, but to self-trust, community and creative courage.

Recorded on location at Odd Fellow Hall, Jen and Rachel are joined by Wichita-based DJ and producer GHOSTGIRL for a conversation that drifts from Galentine’s celebrations to late-night creativity, sensuality on your own terms and the power of building the rooms you wish existed.

With red heart sunglasses firmly in place for a Valentine’s edition of This or That, this episode balances playfulness with depth — and reminds us that choosing yourself can be both soft and bold.

✨ In This Episode, We Talk About:

• Why Galentine’s is more than an alternative to Valentine’s — it’s an act of intentional connection
• Hosting community-focused events and what it means to curate joy
• Creating safe, expressive spaces for women and femmes
• Sensuality as authentic connection — not performance
• Navigating social anxiety while building a public creative life
• Vulnerability as the gateway to real community
• Finding your people through music, art and shared energy
• Why experimental synthpop feels like home
• Letting your art be a love letter to the night
• Building multi-day experiences and festivals rooted in belonging

💗 This or That: Valentine’s Edition

(Yes, with red heart sunglasses)

• Candlelight vs neon lights
• Getting dressed up vs dressing for comfort
• Hosting the party vs being the guest

Equal parts chaos, honesty and laughter.

🎶 About GHOSTGIRL

GHOSTGIRL is a Wichita-based DJ and producer whose work blends synth-forward sounds with experimental textures and emotional depth. Rooted in community-building and self-authored expression, her work spans DJ sets, original music, curated events and collaborative festivals that center connection, inclusivity and creative freedom.

🗓️ Upcoming Events & Projects

💘 Galentine’s at Odd Fellow Hall
📍 Odd Fellow Hall
📅 February 20
⏰ Doors at 7 PM | Event 8 PM–Midnight - Get Tickets Here

An all-women and femmes-forward Galentine’s celebration featuring:

• Multiple DJs
• Local women-owned vendors
• Curated cocktails
• Food, art and community energy

🔥 Valentine’s Night with ICT Pole
📅 February 14
A sensual, high-energy evening blending DJ sets, pole performances and embodied expression.

🎧 New Music on the Way
An upcoming experimental synthpop project featuring collaborations with local artists — music that lives somewhere between dance floor and midnight reflection.

🎉 Mini Music Festival at Lion’s Lounge
📍 Lion’s Lounge
📅 April 18–19 (4/20 weekend)
A two-day, genre-spanning festival featuring DJs, bands, rappers, vendors and a whole lot of community love.

🥂 Final Toast

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt awkward, underestimated or unsure — and chose to show up anyway.
 For the artists, the hosts, the dancers, the curators and the community-builders.
 For love letters that aren’t about romance.

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