Preserving yourself is not being Selfish. This is most easiest way of you being Kind to yourself. We need people to Cherish Happiness but most of all we need ourselves to Grow. There is No Exact Date or Day when you can fall in Love with yourself, instead it always exists within You. What you need is to Clear the Bubbles out in your Head and soon you will Cherish the Downpour of Love on your Soul.