Dr. Chelsea Wakefield and co-host Lisa Stutzman Graves discuss topics in Chapter 5 of Dr. Wakefield's book, The Labyrinth of Love,.what happens in "the swamplands."  This is the time we find ourselves moving deeper into the relationship.  Our inner abandoned kids, vulnerable teenagers and array of other characters start to show up and we don't know what to do about it.  Intimate relationships stir up a lot of memories from the past, memories that have been dormant for many years.  Dr. Wakefield answers an email from a caller who wants to know about second marriages and how to get off to a good start.  This returns us to the topic of expectations, assumptions and projections and how projections and how we can never do enough "pre-marital" counseling to cover everything we will encounter in a deepening relationship.  What we can do is to commit to an ongoing process of doing our personal work and staying engaged and present to each other in the interpersonal realm.  Sometimes projections can feel like intuitions - both positive and negative.  Does intuition exist?  If so, how do we know the difference between projection and intuition?  If we holding our "intuitions" and invested conclusions about who this other person is and what they are about lightly, we can encounter them with loving curiosity and continue to learn about them.  This will create a safe space for them to show up as they really are so that we can see them more clearly and love them more dearly.