Today’s episode is a reflection by Jaime Hoerricks, PhD, on the interwoven experiences of being AuDHD, a gestalt language processor (GLP), and queer and trans. Dr. Hoerricks argues against the cultural assumption that true intimacy and depth are measured by full disclosure and complete legibility, especially for marginalised individuals. She clarifies that her practice of “selective depth” is not avoidance or shallowness but a necessary boundary for safety and nervous system regulation, protecting against extraction, which is defined as attention without attunement. The reflection stresses that demanding a full narrative—whether about one’s trans identity or cognitive process—often serves as a means of surveillance and commodification, turning lived experience into “raw material” for others to consume. Ultimately, she advocates for queer intimacy organised around consent and presence rather than performance or possession, ensuring the unmarketed self remains intact.

Here’s the link to the source article: https://open.substack.com/pub/autside/p/selective-depth-queerness-glp-and

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