Dr. Wakefield and Lisa talk about developing the capacity to “shift states” – moving out of our responsible parent selves into playful lovers and true friends.  They discuss John Gottman’s, “four horsemen of the apocalypse” – criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling and how these become corrosive in relationships.  Dr. Wakefield suggests that before blaming a partner for our distress, we should do our own inner work first. We are often "shadow boxing" when we don't understand the root of our distress.  When both people do this, they become insightful partners, and can create "exit ramps" off the conflict highway. 

Luminous Woman Weekend coming up - September 9-11!  Check it out!

https://chelseawakefield.com/luminous-woman-workshop/