Handsome Hour

Episode 5 - Hoe Phases


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This week on The Handsome Hour, the fellas talk about deep-tech matchmaking, sexual history, personality change, and the long-term cost of "having your fun."

They kick things off with a dispatch from the Love Symposium — a real conference where matchmakers, founders, researchers, and rationalists are trying to solve relationship formation from first principles. 

From there, the conversation turns personal: single life vs. partnered life, how age changes friendships and purpose, and why being alone hits differently once everyone starts building families.

Then they dive into the big one: the "hoe phase." Is sleeping around liberating, damaging, necessary, overrated, or some messy combination of all four? The guys unpack a brutal relationship post — "I've had my fun; now I'm ready to settle down" — and explain why that kind of honesty can still be relationship-ending. Along the way, they debate whether sexual history matters, how much culture lies to young people about consequence-free choices, and why "freedom" almost always comes with a bill later.

It's a wide-ranging episode about trade-offs, maturity, intimacy, and the difference between what feels good now and what builds a good life later — with a few very handsome detours along the way.

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Handsome HourBy Stony Grunow, Cody Zervas, Wes Myers